Today’s Ism….Just Listen!

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Listen up! This lovely morning I would like to touch on Active Listening.  If you follow Tomorrowism on Facebook and are participating in the Weekend Challenges,thank you.  If you haven’t  seen them yet but would like to participate  come on over, it’s  not too late! I’m  thinking about a raffle for those that open themselves to participating  and share their stories  but more on that later….

That moment, the one where  I am required to listen is now the most important  one. Honestly,  I have to confess that was not always the case. Please don’t  get me wrong, I  feel I always made people  know I care in my own way,I just do more of it and differently now. When Active Listening  was brought into my own personal practice it changed things for me. This is when I feel people actually  started taking notice that I am a positive, changing being who shows gratitude towards everyone,not just where I choose.

So, the practice…well it sounds easy, just listen!  Well, as I found out the hard way, it’s more than an open ear, eye contact and a reassuring nod or two. All of those things work but sometimes showing people you are listening is not about what you say next but continuing to listen. This was the hard part for me! So many times we listen with the intent to speak. I am not perfect by any means and make no claims to be but now that I have made myself more aware it is getting easier. I slow myself down more in conversation, ask more meaningful questions  and get better answers. All of the things have changed my relationships  with others and more importantly, myself.

I listen, not with the intent to speak but to hear your struggle. I act, with compassion, to ease your pain. We celebrate life, show gratitude, stay positive and listen to each other.

Now it’s your turn! Choose someone today to practice your active listening skills with, do not tell them, just do it. When you are about to speak step into the moment and ask yourself 3 questions. Is what I am saying truthful, is it with compassion, is it going to move the conversation  into a more positive direction? Come back and share your story.

Please remember to take part in the Weekend Challenges, it’s  not too late! Follow me on Facebook and let me know you are participating.

XOXO,
Toni  from Tomorrow

P.S. Be kind!

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Today’s Ism…Discipline!

http://metro.co.uk/2014/05/26/buddhist-monk-makes-footprints-in-wooden-floorboards-through-20-years-of-prayer-4740267/

So I wanted to share this with you ALL! This is a really great article and video about Discipline. With all of the breaking bad habits and incorporating meditation and more spirituality in my life I understand discipline MUCH better than ever before. So I wanted to ask you all and please share if you feel comfortable, your thoughts on discipline? What are you practicing and how do you keep yourself on track?

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Today’s Ism…..Mindfulness, what’s that?

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So…mindfulness. As you read this 1,000 articles are probably being written about this subject. It is the word of the day everywhere lately. I have been practicing this now for a while, bringing myself back to meditation and eating healthier in 2014. As we enter the 4th quarter phase of the year these things have definitely made me more mindful in the moment. Have I really let go of the past, the things that I carried with me everyday? I can truly say I have! I have settled down, started to figure out my career path and allowing the Universe to guide me. This is not a phase or a fad for me, this is how I choose to live the rest of my life. My husband is totally on board and is also reaping the benefits of meditation and slowing down a bit, when we can. I am definitely not claiming to be “mindful” in every moment but I am IN every moment. This training has definitely allowed me to recognize when I am feeling anxious, in a hurry or stressed out!!!! It has also allowed me to help others which scientifically makes me and others HAPPY. Heading into a new phase of my life is definitely exciting, nerve wrecking and wonderful all at the same time. When was it that you realized your beliefs and started living your life to the fullest? If it hasn’t happened yet, my recommendation to you is to slow down, listen to the universe and realize your potential!

As Always, Be Kind

Toni from Tomorrow

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Today’s ISm….Make it Meaningful?

Good Afternoon here in EST. Time! It’s a beautiful Fall day and dinner is in the oven. So I was silently having a conversation with my other self and was thinking about what it means to everyone to have a meaningful life. You can read some research in the great article below that highlights information from a Stanford University perspective in a study of happiness and a meaningful life. I read it, however I have my own idea of a meaningful life and its ever changing. So then I started to think about what it means to others and what makes your life meaningful So what is it? What is it that you wake up for, what is it that when things seem to be working against you that you can think of or turn things around? We all have it, that something! Now can you share it?!

http://news.stanford.edu/news/2014/january/meaningful-happy-life-010114.html

I am still thinking about it….

XOXO,
Toni from Tomorrow

P.S. Be Kind, do it with meaning!

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Today’s Ism….Mabon, Autumnal Equinox, Fall!

Well People of Tomorrow Fall is upon us here on our calendars and we are so excited for the sights and sounds, smells and benefits of our bountiful harvest moon! This is a time for gratitude, sharing with friends and family. Share your favorite fall memory or activity with us! First on our list is Cider tasting…it cannot come soon enough and NY has many wonderful adventures to share.

XOXO

Toni from TomorrowFall

P.S. Be kind and Celebrate!

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Today’s Ism….resolve it!

I wanted to share this really great video of Diane Hamilton speaking about her book and theories on conflict resolution. I find her work really interesting, her speaking engaging and writing amazing! I understand if you do not listen to the whole hour but even the first minutes will grab you and by the time you know it the hour is gone!

No worries, every situation is workable!

XOXOX
Toni from Tomorrow

p.s. Be Kind!

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Today’s Ism…Rumi Says

Tell me what you are seeking? no worries it WILL find YOU!

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XOXO

Toni from Tomorrow

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